Being Human

People, especially a lot of people I know, are simply afraid to be human. Afraid to be who they already are. They seem worried about what will come out if they let go.

So they start thinking in terms of how they might regulate themselves. Managing how the private self engages and interfaces with their public self. I slip into that kind of limited, constrained mode of being myself occasionally when I'm stressed, unhappy, or under pressure etc. 

I'm not just not being myself, I'm having to think about how to be myself. It's just all wrong.

Thinking about how to be who you are just seems a bit of a contrived endeavour to me. An unnecessary waste of time and energy. But sometimes it may be the only option we have at hand in order to get through a tough time coming up. It's much better than having no strategy at all and going into a situation completely unprepared.  Or is it? 🤔

I try to think as little as possible and just react and respond to as much as I can without being annoying! 😂

Listening to the Internal Signal

What's interesting is that things start to go wrong when we begin making decisions and having intentions for ourselves. Going forward in our lives stops becoming easy, ceases to feel natural and instead feels forced and fake. We stop fulfilling our potential find we don't have access to our super powers anymore. We've been locked out of the domain within our spirit that can make the impossible, possible. It's only when we let go of the reins of self-control and really listen to the internal signal we're receiving from beyond that we then start to carry out what we are supposed to carry out. It's only then that we're able to regain our flow again, to have our mojo return to us, and then the sequence of life events which plays out from that moment forth starts to feel like destiny once more, like things can't happen any other way because it has already been written.

The Bollocks of Blue Monday

Just woken up to the news informing me of the power of Blue Monday and how I should offset its negative effects by consuming positive images from film and nature. Does anyone take this day of mental health marketing seriously? It's absolute bollocks. If you want to, you can feel as cheerful and optimistic as you want, despite the weather and what other people are telling you.

Blue Monday was invented by Sky Travel in 2005 after they calculated the date using an 'equation' that was completely derided and laughed at by scientists. Blue Monday is considered pseudoscience in the scientific community and for me it's a couple of rungs below homeopathy, the science which claims a medicine increases in strength the more water you add to it.

Blue Monday, Black Friday and all these other fucking colourful campaign days are at best, self fulfilling prophecies that consumers buy into and then validate and make real themselves.

If you give contrived campaigns like these any credence whatsoever then you will be at the whims of others telling you how you should be feeling, and most likely start feeling guilty when you don't feel like how they say you should be feeling.

The equation that author Cliff Arnall used to calculate the date incorporated factors such as: Tt = travel time; D = delays; C = time spent on cultural activities; R = time spent relaxing; ZZ = time spent sleeping; St = time spent in a state of stress; P = time spent packing; Pr = time spent in preparation

This joke of a formula naturally produced some proper bollocks of the highest order.

"Ben Goldacre has observed that the equations "fail even to make mathematical sense on their own terms", pointing out that under Arnall's original equation, packing for ten hours and preparing for 40 will always guarantee a good holiday, and that "you can have an infinitely good weekend by staying at home and cutting your travel time to zero"