you cant feel self-pity if you don't have a self

You cant feel self-pity if you don't have a self. Not possible. If you believe there's a self then you split yourself in two. I, myself, take advice from Girls with Spice. Let Two Become One. "Gonna make love to yer baby..." Life is unfair so you feel sorry for your self, not you. Because you is me. So be we. "It's the only way to be..."